05/10/2026
Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mom’s out there 💕🌸
Moms Bring Out the Best in Us
Dan Seaborn
When I think about my mom and when I think about all of the moms that I know, one common thread I see is that moms bring out the best in us. They believe in us, they encourage us, they celebrate with us, they cry with us, and they hope with us. My mom passed away just over a decade ago, and I still feel the loss acutely. She was one of very few people that I always knew would be 100% supportive of me – maybe even when the idea I was pursuing wasn’t worth supporting! But that’s a mom for you, isn’t it?
I hope that on this Mother’s Day, everybody is taking the time to celebrate their mom and the moms in their lives. That list that I opened with is all stuff that takes a lot of emotional energy and emotional investment, but moms do it all because they know how much we need them, and they know how much of an impact their love and support make in our lives.
When I look around, I am filled with joy and satisfaction at just how many moms I know and love who are investing so generously into their children’s (and adult children’s) lives. Just in my immediate family, I see how my wife continues to love and care for our kids. This is most often expressed by her helping with watching the grandkids. But she also invests in each of our four adult children and their spouses and significant others. And our two daughters and one of our daughters-in-law have a total of 8 kids that they are doing the hard work of investing in and loving on a daily basis.
We all have connections to moms who are giving of themselves in order to pour into the next generation and who are creating a solid foundation for kids to believe in themselves and to learn how to navigate life. Let’s find ways to celebrate those moms today, whether they are our moms or they are our kids’ moms. I hope you go out of your way today to give them breakfast in bed or cards made of construction paper and love. Or to head to Mom’s favorite restaurant today to let her know that she’s seen and appreciated!
On another note, most adults will also have some hurts and disappointments related to our moms, and you might be feeling those deeply today. I don’t highlight the good aspects with the goal of papering over that reality. Especially when we’re growing up, negative experiences can have an outsized and lasting impact on us. We might remember a comment that our mom doesn’t remember. Or we might remember a punishment that left us feeling excluded and like we didn’t measure up. Regardless of what the intent was, those negative experiences linger and haunt us in some ways.
Because of the counseling and coaching services that Winning At Home offers, I have come to realize that this is not a unique situation. We have people coming in for appointments every single day during the week to work through painful childhood memories that continue to impact them years or decades later. If your ability to celebrate your mom today is hampered by some painful memories from the past, I hope you’ll reach out to our offices and talk to a trained professional so that you can work through those experiences and emotions. And so that you can see all of the good that your mom brought to your life and be able to celebrate it fully!
