26/02/2017
SIGNS OF IMMATURITY IN MARRIAGE FOR MEN:
"( 1) Rejecting food when there's an issue: Oga husband, you gave your wife money for food and
after it was prepared you refused to eat because you dey vex. It's one of the greatest signs of
immaturity, it's time to grow up!
You should not even abandon your home for any reason, you could go somewhere when angry
but ensure that you don't allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the
devil to build on.
"( 2) Telling your wife severally that you are the head: May I let you know that even when your
wife disobeys/ disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or
scream it
daily. It's important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over
issues, however don't become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.
"(3) Issuing threats: beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging
about marrying another wife does not make you a man. Your strength is in your ability to tame
your
tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her "childish woman" part, play the "matured
man."
"(4) Reporting your wife to friends and family: When your wife offends you, correct and talk things
through. You don't have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black and sell her
cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back.
"(5) Keeping malice: is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag,
criticise,
abuse and call their wives names in public. It may make you look like a "big boy" who's in
control but you are not going to gain anything good from it, your home will only be a den of
insults and confrontations.
"(6) Not helping with house chores: I must say here that it is the sole responsibility of a woman
to tend and manage a home. However, it's not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when
necessary.
"Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the
house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife and if you truly care you'll help,
just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good
example to the kids especially the boys. Some men don't even say "thank You" to their wives
after eating, all they do is compare her with other women. It's a shame that after having 3-4kids
some men cannot change a simple diaper or prepare cereal.
"Lastly, every man should have a church/mosque where his family is watered and raised
spiritually. This makes you accountable, it's immaturity and dangerous to be a sheep without a
shepherd. As you learn and grow in the right fold, you'll be able to take the lead as the head of the home.😄😄😄
